The Silent Package and Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

Sometimes in life we encounter people that seem so fixated on fulfilling such basic and visceral wants and desires that they lose sight of the effect their insecurities have on other people. I have one friend who is 33 and has never had a serious girlfriend. He has technically had a girlfriend, but I don't believe the relationship was ever consummated. In fact, he has never "consummated" a relationship with anyone. And while the 40 year old virgin was a nice, slightly geeky, but charming guy, the "silent package" is anything but.

Named as such because he enjoys calling himself the "total package". He claims to be smart, charming and handsome, meanwhile, he is short, bitter and only recently lost some weight. When he was fatter, he was just as bitter, but a little less annoying, and far less arrogant. I've tried to help him, as have the rest of my friends, but nothing seems to work. So I've decided to see if I can apply Maslow's hierarchy of needs to determine what he needs to do to get past this shallow unhappiness.

The Hierarchy is based on the idea that all

humans have fundamental needs that have

to be fulfilled before they can be self-

actualized. Self-actualization is a level of human consciousness where due to the fact that the other needs are being me, this person can pursue higher, more noble pursuits such as making the world better or self improvement. The self-actualized person isn't bitter, jealous or demeaning. It is shaped in the form of a pyramid because you cannot fully achieve a level until the needs of the level below it has been fulfilled.

Based on what I know of my friend, he has the first two levels pretty well taken care of. It is the third where he lacks. He has friends, but at some point he treats all of us like shit and makes an attempt to bring us down. He has family and spends a decent amount of time with them for his age. But he is seriously lacking sexual intimacy. According to the hierarchy it appears that until he fulfills the love/belonging level of the pyramid when cannot achieve the confidence and self-esteem associate with the esteem level. I believe that a deficiency at the esteem level is what causes him to lash out. So basically, until my boy gets laid he won't stop feeling shitty about himself and lashing out at others.

Any volunteers?